Mom You Are Loved, Remember to Love Yourself

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Moms, you are appreciated.  You are loved beyond measure.  You are your children’s rock and safe place. Motherhood can feel all too thankless and we often forget to care for ourselves. Alexandra reminds us how much we matter- and that practicing regular self-care is critical to be your best self in all that you do.

 

gratitude for mom self care adviceAlexandra is the founder & blogger of The Happy Life Formula. She is passionate about living a happy life through wellness, love, fun, lifestyle, money, gratitude and purpose. You can check out her blog or follow her on Facebook or Pinterest!

I distinctly remember being in the car with my mother when I was 22 years old and home for some time off from college.

 

In the car is when it is easiest to have conversations that are difficult, awkward, or meaningful since the other person can’t exactly run away and is forced to listen to whatever you have to say.

 

Usually, it had been my mom having one of these conversations with me. But on that day, I took a moment to let her know something that had been on my mind after conversations with all of the people and friends I had met at school.

 

Mom, I just wanted to thank you for being the parent that you are. You encouraged, inspired, enabled and loved me through my years and I wanted to say thank you.

 

Mamas, while I may not be a mother yet, I am a daughter. In that moment I realized how much time, energy, love, and sacrifice my mom gave to me.  I was finally able to express my sincerest gratitude to her for mothering me when I was 22.

 

It took me 22 years to put into words the thank you that she deserved for shaping me into the person I am today. So I want you to remember a few things as you continue your journey with motherhood (and I hope I remember to take my own advice when I become a mother!)

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You have to love yourself first

 

I know, you’ve probably heard this advice a million times but sometimes I think we need to remind ourselves of this a million more times!

 

Yes, I know you have tiny humans relying on you to meet all of their needs, but in order to do so you need to be well taken care of yourself.

 

You know on an airplane, when they are going through the safety instructions and they always remind you that in the event of an emergency, you need to put on your own oxygen mask before you can help others? That same example applies to every day life.

 

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What does this mean?

 

Find some time to practice self-care. Ask your partner to watch the kids while you take a shower alone, without little ones prying the door open. Link up with your neighbors to take turns watching the kids so that you can take a nap or read a book for pleasure. Have grandma and grandpa take the kids for a weekend so you can visit a spa or hang out with your girlfriends.

 

I promise you, it is OKAY to take time for yourself! It will make you a happier person who will bring more to your interactions with your family. You’ll have new experiences to share and more love to give if you are filling your own bucket with love.

 

Your children’s opinions are the ones that matter

 

I thought that when middle school and high school were over it would mean the end of drama and judgmental people. Turns out, some of these people never grow out of middle and high school.

 

But guess what? Who cares what these people think of you! I know it is tempting to feel mom-shamed by other mothers who are posting photos of the handmade dresses they sewed for their daughters while making them organic bento box lunches and hosting Pinterest worthy birthday parties for their 2 year olds who won’t remember them. But the only opinions you need to listen to?

 

 Your children’s.

 

They are the ones that matter. They are the ones who should be driving your decisions and they are the ones who you want to make happy. And I promise you, in their eyes, you are doing an amazing job.

 

You don’t have to be perfect

 

There is a quote by Voltaire that sums this up beautifully:

 

“Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.”

 

What this means is stop letting the fear of not being perfect paralyze you and prevent you from taking any action towards something that can be good!

Baking a cake for your child’s birthday is an act of love, it doesn’t have to look like the perfectly frosted creations you see in the bakery window. Doing something and enjoying the process of spending the time with your loved ones is what matters.

 

Besides, I bet your kids and your family think you are pretty perfect already!

 

My hope for you, moms, is that you stop being so hard on yourselves. You may not hear the thank yous or the profound proclamations of how wonderful you are for many, many years but I promise you that a mother is a precious gift to a child. You may never know how loved you truly are, but I promise you, you are.

 

Xoxo

Alexandra

Mama, if you are ready to show yourself more of the love you deserve, check out the FREE 30 page self-care workbook made just for you right here, at Our Happy Imperfection. Or find more mothering inspiration here.

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Until next time,

Sarah

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54 thoughts on “Mom You Are Loved, Remember to Love Yourself

  1. I have to constantly remind myself to LOVE myself. It can be hard to do, but I think the more I say it and remember I am worthy, the more colorful and beautiful life becomes.

  2. It’s so important to look after ourselves. As a new mum to an 8 month old, I’m only now trying my best to find time to take care of myself. I heard a great quote that has stuck with me “we need to be the best versions of ourselves in order to be he best mums we can be”. Thank you for sharing Alexandra!

  3. What a great post Sarah/Alexandra! As a daughter and a first-time-mum, I can certainly relate and agree. I didn’t always tell my mum how much i loved her growing up but now i say it a lot (mostly in my mind, lol). And as a mum to an under 2, i know she loves me especially when her face lifts up as soon as she sees me. I get kisses too when we’ve been apart for a few hours, lol. But obviously when I’m tired or feeling down, I can easily forget.

  4. This is a great post. I struggle with self care and guilt – as in, I feel guilty any time I take time for myself or purchase something for myself and not my kids. But there are sweet moments where my 5 year old will say thanks for something as simple as buying her a new shampoo, or helping her with her room. It’s super important for us to love ourselves, too! Thank you for sharing.

  5. So perfectly said. ❤ As a Mom, especially with young children, it’s a hard concept to grasp let alone make happen. But that doesn’t mean it’s not vital for our sanity!

  6. Hallelujah! The words every mother is waiting to hear! I’m sure this was music to your mommas ears. I know it would be to mine. And I too, hope you can remember to practice what you’ve preached here when your time comes.

  7. Learning to love yourself is hard and as moms, we are harder on our selfs than others. you are right we need to love our self for we are loved by our children.

  8. Great timing on this post as I’ve been having a few days of feeling overwhelmed. I learned today that I just need to ask my kids for help and I will get it. I just needed to slow down.

  9. I agree with this on so many levels. Self-love is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Once you love yourself, everything else seems to align in harmony.

  10. How lovely and true. As I look at mine and seeing how much she truly does for me whether days are good or bad, she never stops sharing love. Great post.

  11. What an amazing post. I am always so hard on myself. Thankfully my mom and my husband point out all the time that I am an amazing woman and mother. I need to remind myself more often.

  12. My mom and I have different ideas of the world, but we still have a great relationship. I tend to have lots of conversations with my kids in the car, but I didn’t with my own mother. Lovely article.

  13. This is beyond sweet. I bet your mother would cherish this. Such a beautiful little tribute. Sometimes it can be hard not to take our mothers for granted. Love the post!

  14. I love this- “Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.”
    What a great message you are giving us, and, such an important reminder.
    I am always focusing on my weaknesses and the list of things to do for others- time for a little self praise.

  15. This is so important! I have always felt that focusing on my kids, and valuing their opinion on how I am doing is the best. Everyone has an opinion on how we are are parents but the kids are the only one that matters.

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